Mathematician: The Physicist and I were once asked “how do I find the love of my life?”. So if trying to find the “love of your life” is a bad idea, what should a person do? It is much smarter to view the search for love as an attempt to maximize your total lifetime romantic happiness over the rest of your life. This formula leads us directly to a variety of specific strategies for improving our total romantic happiness, which I will now discuss in detail. They will make people more attracted to you (including even non-superficial people), which means that you will, on average, be increasing your total romantic happiness!